The saboteurs who are preventing us from moving forward

Those inner voices that hold us back…

There are obstacles that we don't always see.

Because they do not come from outside, but from within ourselves.

They make no noise.

They are not shouting.

They gradually settle into our thoughts, our choices, our hesitations.

And often, without realizing it, we become our own worst saboteur.

These silent saboteurs prevent us from moving forward, from making clear choices, and from fully taking our place. Not through a lack of talent or skills… but because they cloud our judgment and undermine our confidence.

Recognizing them is already a step towards regaining one's power.

The comparison that exhausts

Comparison is probably one of the most widespread saboteurs.

We look at what others are doing.

Where they have ended up.

What they display.

And gradually, we begin to doubt our own trajectory.

Comparison makes us forget one essential thing: we never see the other person's complete journey, only a showcase.

Result ?

We are downplaying our progress.

We slow down our momentum.

We disconnect from our rhythm.

👉 Taking back control here means returning to yourself. To your definition of success. To your values. To what truly makes sense to you, not to others.

The guilt that paralyzes

Guilt is insidious.

It manifests itself when we think we are not doing enough.

When you dare to say no.

When we choose differently from what is expected.

It makes us believe that taking care of ourselves, prioritizing ourselves, or changing direction is a selfish act.

In reality, guilt paralyzes us.

It keeps us in situations that no longer nourish us.

👉 Taking back control means understanding that choosing yourself doesn't mean abandoning others. It means respecting yourself. And a choice made based on self-respect is always stronger in the long run.

The desire to please that distances us from ourselves

The desire to please is deeply human.

But when it becomes a reflex, it distances us from our truth.

Saying yes when you mean no.

Constantly adapting to expectations.

To withdraw in order to avoid conflict or disappointment.

By constantly striving to be liked, we lose touch with what we truly want.

👉 Taking back control means accepting that no matter what we do, there will always be someone who doesn't like it. Ignoring what others think is a first step towards honoring ourselves.

Overwork that eventually makes you lose your bearings

Overwork is often disguised as performance.

We do more.

We're going faster.

We fill in every space.

But by pulling on the elastic band repeatedly, the battery runs out.

Decisions are becoming reactive rather than thoughtful.

The momentum turns into continuous fatigue.

👉 Taking back control means intentionally slowing down. Creating space. Regaining clarity to move forward coherently rather than in survival mode.

Regaining control over what is truly holding us back

Naming one's saboteurs is not a harsh way of judging oneself.

It's about observing oneself with clarity and kindness.

These mechanisms are not weaknesses.

They are often protection strategies that have become too prevalent.

Understanding them allows us to make more conscious and sustainable choices.

It's impossible to eliminate all fears. The only thing we can do is reclaim our power and decide on the trajectory, the next step to take.